Couples Therapy

An affair is often a cataclysmic and shattering event in a couple’s life.

There is no quick fix on the road to healing, and it takes time. Rebuilding trust after infidelity is a complicated journey, and it can also be a tremendously rewarding one. Many couples are able to find a path forward and manage to rebuild their connection.

If both partners are ready and willing to embark on this journey, there is a lot to be hopeful about. I work with couples around creating the right conditions that allow this healing process to begin. Restoring trust is a process that involves changing behaviour and making different choices one day at a time. It is more about doing the right things rather than saying the right things. I help the other partner to express hurt feelings in a safe space in a way that can facilitate healing and reconnection. I work on rebuilding transparency and vulnerability.

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Some important steps to consider in helping your partner:

Take Full Accountability: Acknowledge the betrayal without defensiveness, excuses, or minimizing the impact. Your partner needs to know you fully understand the depth of harm caused.
Consider Committing to Radical Transparency for a period of time: Be open about your whereabouts, communication, devices, and intentions. Transparency is not punishment — it’s a path to rebuilding trust.
Show Consistent, Empathic Remorse: Express genuine regret and compassion for your partner’s pain. Avoid pressure for forgiveness or quick healing.
Allow Your Partner to Feel and Express Their Emotions: Make space for their anger, grief, and confusion without trying to rush or fix it.
Accept That Healing Takes Time: Betrayal trauma recovery is not linear. Be patient and prepared for ups and downs in the healing process.
Seek Professional Support for Yourself: Work with a therapist trained in sexual integrity issues to understand the root causes of the betrayal and begin your own healing process.