Betrayal Trauma

We are all wired for connection and bonding, often trusting partners with our lives.

When we feel confident about our relationship, life’s challenges seem more manageable, our load feels lighter and we feel more resilient. Discovering infidelity or deception in our intimate relationships can be very disorienting. This experience creates a cascade of reactions that include emotional, physical, and spiritual distress.

Betrayal trauma has roots in a violation of trust by a person or entity that we depend on for our survival. This is why sexual behaviour in a relationship can be so devastating and confusing. It undermines our basic sense of safety in the world. As a result, you may find yourself feeling numb and disoriented, followed by periods of extreme anxiety and emotional pain. It can impact all aspects of daily life, lead to loss of sleep, poor appetite and feelings of anger, hopelessness and depression. Betrayal trauma often impacts our sense of self and body image. It can lead to feelings of self-doubt and constant intrusive thoughts about the past.

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Consider taking these steps:

Slow down: You may feel pressured to make a decision quickly- you don’t need to rush; you are allowed to take the time to process.
Find safety: Ensure you have everything you need to feel like you can regain your footing and protect yourself and your health.
Take Space: Give yourself ample room to be with the difficult emotions.
Seek support: You don’t have to do this alone. Reach out to trusted friends or a professional and share your feelings and experience.

There is healing from betrayal trauma.

I work with…

Partners and spouses who have experienced sexual betrayal and infidelity in their relationships. I provide treatment to those who have been affected by loss of emotional safety.

I work through the trauma of discovery and the confusion and shock that follow. Infidelity or breaches of trust can take on many forms and don’t have to mean the end of your relationship. Many people are able to find a path forward that feels right to them. We are wired to rely on other people for love, protection and safety and finding this safety again is something that can be tremendously healing.

Reach out to see if I can help on your journey.